Three in the Room:
Who’s Present with You Besides the Client? When a client sits down for a mentoring session, what we see is a single individual. However, an experienced mentor understands that it is more complicated than this. In Coaching, Mentoring and Organisational Consultancy, Peter Hawkins and Nick Smith discuss the law of three clients, which is the idea that our clients all … Read More ... Read More
29 May 2026
Empathy Overload: When Caring Turns Into Carrying Others
When a client is in a leadership or care-giving profession, it can be almost impossible not to become emotionally invested in the people around them; problems, objectives and causes of others can become important to the client as well. Most of the time, this investment in others is part of what makes them good at their job. As mentors, coaches … Read More ... Read More
12 Mar 2026
The Importance of Using Spiritual Discernment When Taking Action
In my last blog, we looked at how to better listen to the Holy Spirit. How we can make the time and space to sit with God and learn to hear His words. However, this is just the first step. After we can see and understand the Lord’s plans, we must then take action. What is the point of listening if we don’t use our new understanding to make transformation happen?
3 July 2025
Solving Problems at the Core
The old adage, “Things are not always as they seem,” is one that, despite its simplicity, holds a profound truth, especially for mentors and supervisors. Our clients are complicated humans, full of contradictions, blind spots and self-deceit. When they come to us with a problem, there is almost always more to the issue than meets the eye...
25 July 2024
Three Ways Experience Shapes Our Mentoring Sessions
Every mentor or supervisor uses their own experiences to guide their mentees. It is almost impossible not to use one’s experiences and perspectives during sessions. Here are some to be aware of: Your Experience Mentors and Supervisors often enter into the role because of their personal experience. We have been pastors, coaches, teachers, leaders, and everything we have learned has ... Read More
29 Feb 2024
Three Questions to Set Goals With Your Mentee
We have all spent a session (or many) with our mentee considering their personal and professional goals, and found ourselves worried that these goals aren’t attainable or healthy. It can be harmful and wrong to support our mentees in goals that are not in their best interest or are interfering with a more important objective, but it can be difficult ... Read More
25 Jan 2024
Two Models to Help Generate Options for the Future
Welcome! As a mentor and supervisor, I have guided many people through professional and personal difficulties, and helped them shape a clear vision for their future. This begins with generating options for what the future could hold; from the outcome of a small confrontation to major life decisions, such as career changes. Of course, many people assume that mentoring and ... Read More
18 Jan 2024
Curiosity: The Key to Humility
Do you want to explore how practising curiosity can help you grow in humility? Click through to read this article to learn about 3 questions to build curiosity and other tips to help you stay humble!
21 Dec 2023
How to Build a Clear Picture of Your Mentee’s Reality
Curious to uncover the many layers influencing your mentees? Read this article to explore how to start the call to action and identify blindspots and trigger points that could be impacting their lives. Click through to gain a better understanding and develop your mentoring skills!
7 Dec 2023
Three Questions that Help Mentees Determine Outcomes
Want to explore outcomes with your mentees? Read this article to learn how to help your mentee consider what is real, sound, and legal when making decisions. My mentor resources will help you grow your mentoring skills and assess your competency level. Click through to learn more!
30 Nov 2023
Discovering What Is Left Unsaid
Are you struggling to draw out deeper conversations with your mentee? Read this article to explore why people hide parts of themselves and learn tips on how to gently elicit these hidden facts. Click through to read more!
1 Nov 2023
The Power of Probing Questions
As a mentor, I want to understand my mentees on a deeper level. I need to ask probing questions, observe keenly and empathise to get a full picture of their background, culture, context, beliefs, and goals. Click through to read this article to explore the Seven-Eyed Model of Supervision, uncover hidden influences, and learn how to ask better questions.
26 Oct 2023
3 Tips for Navigating Cultural Differences in Mentoring/Supervision
Click through to explore how to effectively engage with people from different cultures and contexts. I’ve learned what it takes to ask the right questions, make cultural compromises and understand the importance of meeting the community where they are.
13 July 2023
The Seven Perspectives: Perspective Two
Supervisee-Focused Perspective (External) Welcome to part two of our series on the seven perspectives for professional supervisors which concerns the three main relationships involved in Professional supervision; the professional Supervisor, their supervisee and the client of the supervisee. For example, this could be a professional supervisor working with their supervisee who is a school Principal. The supervisee’s clients would be ... Read More
24 Aug 2022
The Seven Perspectives: Eye One
Focusing on the clients This perspective focuses on the sort of third party involved. For a mentor or coach talking with a Professional Supervisor, this person would be their client. With a school Principal talking with a Professional Supervisor, the third party would be their teachers, the students or the parents of the students. For a pastor in the same ... Read More
23 Aug 2022
Mentoring Essential: Investigative Inquiry and Discernment
Have you ever been mid-conversation with an acquaintance or a friend and they say something that sheds light on just how different they are from you? Maybe it goes back to vastly different cultures, or the way your parents parented, it might be philosophical or religious… It could even go deeper into areas of trauma they experienced… or didn’t experience ... Read More
31 Mar 2022