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Why Friendships Matter
In my last post, I shared my experience with Covid; how Adrienne and I both caught it while on a trip to Tasmania and were stuck away from home while we recovered. After an uncomfortable and difficult time in a hotel, we were rescued by friends who allowed us to stay in their apartment and took care of us. This ... Read More
23 June 2022
Building a Bridge of Trust
Do you recall a time when you hesitated to be vulnerable, when you played things close to the chest when maybe you shouldn’t have? You aren’t alone—most of us have difficulty trusting at some point, often as a result of experiences in the past where someone close has hurt us. That can be hard to overcome. Healthy adults will seek ... Read More
5 Aug 2021
The key barrier to taking responsibility—Self-isolation
The Elijah Syndrome When do you feel the most alone? Think about these two scenarios; a Saturday afternoon after a normal but decent and productive week of work. You take a walk, work in your garden, read an interesting book and have a good meal. Or a Saturday afternoon after a long, hard week filled with conflict and you’re heading ... Read More
31 Mar 2021
Building Healthy Key Connections #2 - Proactively construct enduring relationships
How healthy are your key relationships? Healthy key connections are essential for emotional well-being. This is true for all people of influence irrespective of the title of a leadership role. Mums and dads are people of influence. Emotionally healthy people and leaders proactively build enduring relationships. On a recent trip to the country to visit family, at the end of ... Read More
25 Mar 2020
An emotionally-healthy leader is great to be with. This is why.
Flowing on the last Building Healthy Key Connections—Experiencing Belonging and Connectedness. They experience a strong sense of connectedness with their key people. Being secure in themselves, they interact securely with those close to them. They are comfortable being close and getting close. Their connectedness ensures they consistently experience a healthy sense of belonging. Trust exudes from them and their strong ... Read More
19 Mar 2020
Building Healthy Key Connections — Experiencing Belonging & Connectedness
How healthy are your key relationships? Healthy key connections are essential for emotional well-being. High emotional health makes healthy key relationships. When we are not well emotionally, key connections will be impacted and unhealthy key connections also affect us emotionally.This is true for all people, irrespective of the extent of their influence, whether they have a title of leadership or ... Read More
12 Mar 2020
My spouse is going through burnout - Part 2
(Part two by Adrienne Easton see Part one) Don’t take it personally—understand they are not well. Being the spouse of a person going through burnout has its own difficulties.We may fight with feelings of rejection by the one person we thought would always be present and listening in conversation, buoyant, approachable and engaging. We may think, “Who is this person? ... Read More
4 Feb 2020
5 Keys for building friendships
The building of trust is essential for forming friendships. Here are 5 keys to building trust in friendships. Keep your word Becoming dependable is foundational for friendships. This happens as we communicate clearly. When I was a young dad balancing the demands of work and family, Adrienne would ask me, “When will you be home?” I would say about 4 ... Read More
12 Dec 2019
Regaining the art of making connections
When did we stop talking? In the busyness and stress of our world, people are losing the art of forming friendships, perceiving that it’s easier to isolate than congregate. Community has become a geographical area rather than a group of people with a common resonance. For our well-being, we need to discover the art of connection. We thrive when we ... Read More
5 Dec 2019
Friendships - the antidote to loneliness
So grateful for friends Recently we had a family tragedy. James our grandson died in childbirth. (You can read about some of the journey here: Link to blog) We were all heartbroken. One of the key things that have helped/is helping us journey through the grief is our friends; friends who called and friends who came over, people who reached ... Read More
21 Nov 2019
Alignment of values builds relationships
Values and relationships Discovering what you value and believe will have an impact on your relationships. If you are are a single person, it will help you to know with whom to build connections and what importance you place on existing connections. If you are in a relationship, it will help you understand how to strengthen your relationship. Adrienne and ... Read More
5 Sept 2019
Deep and Positive Connections are Key to Thriving
How are your key relationships? Along with living a life of purpose where gifts and goals align, a key to thriving* is having great relationships. Relationships that experience a healthy level of connectedness provide an atmosphere that enables us to thrive. We flourish with the right conditions. Similar to an orchid plant in an orchid house, where moisture and temperature ... Read More
30 July 2019
What is really helpful when you are in grief?
How do you find comfort? Firstly, be with those closest to you. When we received news that we had lost our grandson, we knew we had to be with his parents, our son and his wife. I called our daughter’s husband and asked them to come and look after the grandchildren we had staying. Let some people know who can ... Read More
8 July 2019
3 keys to building attachment - Transparency, Trust and Time
Present but not really I am blessed to be part of one of the most connected movements. Deep in our culture is the core value of connection. But in my emotional sickness, while visibly present, I was not transparent or vulnerable. The words coming from my lips indicated that things were good all the time. But in reality, they were ... Read More
3 Mar 2019
Building Attachment - restored to connect
How is the health of your key relationships? The level of our Well-Being is reflected in the health of our key relationships. Relationships are not a means to an end but are a source of life and vitality. We need deep connections to flourish. This is true for home and work life. “Cultivating key relationships where true, two-way intimacy occurs, ... Read More
28 Feb 2019